How to make things happen


I was at a dinner party last year and one of the people who was there said to me, "You're a wanderer." I was insulted at first. But when I thought about it, I had to admit that there was SOME truth in there. Isn't that always the way?


All because it's close to home.

I've moved around a lot. If you ask me, I would say that I really haven't but when I list the cities that I've lived in, yes, I've moved around a lot.

Edmonton, Vancouver, Cape Town

Vancouver, Victoria, Vancouver



It's a lot. Or more than the average.

Now I'm in Vancouver. I didn't go grow up here. I didn't go to school here. I didn't have my daughter here. And now I'm back here after 10 years away. I'm not the person who left.

I'm starting over again.

But before you say, "Oh, that's too bad", trust me, I'm not feeling sorry for myself. My point (and I do have one) is that I have a strategy that I use every move. And beyond every move - it's something that I've learned to do no matter what situation I'm in.

It's this.

Be the host, not the guest

Want to make some friends? Find some paid work? Join a book club? Start kayaking? Be the host, not the guest. Make it happen. Be the instigator. Take a step.

Don't wait for someone else to call or sign you up or invite you. Don't wait for someone else to encourage you to take more photos or make more art. Don't wait for someone else to ask what you are going to do with your life.

Be the host.

And that's how I make things happen.